Monthly Archive for April, 2010

Is Your “Inner Entrepreneur” Keeping You from Finding a Loving Relationship?

Your love life doesn’t have to suffer because you are building your own business. There is room in your heart for both.

Women entrepreneurs I work with are under the false assumption that it’s not possible to have the energy and time to find an ideal romantic relationship and build a successful business at the same time. It’s a natural tendency to make earning money a priority, but it can really cut into a woman’s love life to the point where it may not exist! Of course that course leads to being lonely and overworked.

You can have it all when you follow certain guidelines to achieve a level of satisfaction in both areas of your life: setting priorities, getting organized, managing time more efficiently, etc. These strategies may be effective for the short term, but the results they produce usually don’t last because they focus on changing behavior rather than addressing the core thinking leading to those behaviors. These behavioral changes result from an outer influences that cause you to act against your natural tendencies, rather than a shift deep within leading to sustainable change.

I know you can “have it all” when you treat the pursuit of your love life with the same passion and commitment as you treat the building of your business. When you choose to live in accordance with your core values you engage in the process of “Self-Mastery.” When your efforts in business and relationship are in alignment with your core values, you automatically resonate with success. This automatically attracts business opportunities, and dating opportunities, which ultimately allow you to step into your unlimited potential.

The unique process I use approaches achieving changes in your life from a shift in “core” energy, as opposed to responding to externally imposed guidelines. It helps the individual discover the beliefs  adopted and perceptions picked up over time. Due to these beliefs and perceptions, a person develops default tendencies which either support the notion of “having it all” or reject it.

You can become conscious of how these default tendencies have guided your thoughts, feelings and actions and driven your ability to “have it all” or not. By shifting your behaviors from this core level, you are able to experience sustainable change. You can have it all!

Published on Wednesday April 28, 2010 in Energy and Relationship. 0 Comments Tags: , , , .

Remember the “Wedding Vase” – Together But Separate

When beginning any new relationship, particularly a “dating” relationship, it is easy to give yourself away. You may find yourself so caught up in the excitement and the infatuation of being with the other person, that you agree with almost everything the other person says and wants. However, as the relationship progresses, putting what you want and need below the needs and desires of the other person leads not only to giving yourself away, but damaging your self-love and your blossoming relationship.

The bottom line is that it is imperative to “Maintain Your Boundaries” (Heart Dating Principle No. 3). The seemingly simple act of maintaining your boundaries allows you to come together yet maintain your individuality, so as not to give yourself away to the other person and ultimately lose yourself in the relationship. Healthy boundaries reinforce the fact that you are complete within yourself and that you are coming together with this other person because you “want” to be and not because you “need” to be. When you come together in this way, you are more of an equal partner and your self-love remains intact.

In the Native American tradition, the Wedding vase serves as an ideal unifying symbol of being together but separate. It is a single vessel designed with two spouts symbolizing a man and woman living separate lives who are coming together. Individuals coming together while still maintaining their individuality is the best way to form a commitment of trust and strength.

Published on Monday April 26, 2010 in Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments Tags: , , .

3 Quick Tips For Finding the Perfect Relationship

One glorious spring afternoon, much like today, my mentor and I were sitting down to a cup of tea.  I was telling him that I have realized that my mission in life is to support and empower women to find their ideal partner. I explained that it had been a long and introspective journey for me.  When I was clear about what I wanted in a mate and loved myself more, I was finally ready to connect with another. I have now realized the bliss of heartfelt connection and love with another, and … with myself.

He understood just what I meant and offered me the following to share with my clients.  He further explained that it rarely fails for the people who have tried these tips:

TIP #1.     List 20 characteristics of your perfect mate.  (These can be personality traits, physical qualities, etc. – whatever is important to you.  You can list more that 20 if you wish.  I recommend that you do not be bashful.  Go for the gold and describe your perfect mate – No Limitations!

TIP#2.     Describe the person you want to be when you meet this person and then go about becoming this person.

TIP #3.     List all the things you want to do before you get yourself into a committed relationship and start doing them. (If you want to take a cruise with your single friends – do it, if you want to do a 2 week “Vision Quest” – do it.  If you want to hitchhike across Europe – do it, etc.)

I invite you to give this a try and please  remember, “There is Power in the Particular.”

Published on Saturday April 3, 2010 in Energy and Relationship, First Date Preparation and Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments

Networked Blogs to Facebook

As I prepared this past week to be a part of the 15th Birthday of the “Imagine a Woman” event, I rushed to update my profiles on social networking and to create a Fan Page for Navigate from the Heart Coaching on Facebook.

I wanted to be sure that all of my blog posts show up in that environment, too. So I used an application called “Netwroked Blogs” to automate posting.

If you are reading this on Facebook, then I did it right! Ain’t technology grand?

Published on Friday April 2, 2010 in Events. 0 Comments

“Imagine a Woman” Turns 15

Today, I have the privilege of wishing happy 15th birthday to the “Imagine a Woman” poem. The poem inspired my own “rebirth.” From the moment I heard it read, it’s message resonated within my heart. To this day, I cannot read it without a tear in my eye.

Growing up, I experienced the loss of my own “voice” and belief in myself. I grew to believe that if I put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own, I would loved and not abandoned. It was not until I heard the words: “Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself. A woman who listens to her needs and desires. Who meets them with tenderness and grace”— that I truly understood that it was OK to be me. How freeing!

I am not alone on the journey to reclaim the truth about myself. My most heartfelt desire and calling is to share this message with my sisters everywhere, so that you, too, may know the depth of joy that I now experience because of this life-changing poem. I invite you to check out the Imagine a Woman Worldwide Community at its website: www.imagineAwoman.com and give your heart the opportunity to smile.   

I wish you love and wholeness, Mara Castello

Published on Friday April 2, 2010 in Events and Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments Tags: , , .