Heart Dating (TM) is the process by which you use the loving power of your heart to develop the confidence in who you truly are and enter the relationship journey in pursuit of your ideal partner from a place of sharing your abundance as opposed to filling a void within yourself.
It leads to a “strong relationship” in that it is a prelude to a deep commitment to supporting each other’s fulfillment as an individual and as a member of a couple. To paraphrase author, Anais Nin, a strong relationship is one in which, rather than facing inward toward each other exclusively, two people stand side-by-side facing outward — together.
A “strong relationship” is not a merging of two people in which two halves make a whole. Rather, it is a merging of two people in which two wholes make two even more enhanced wholes. This may also be referred to as “conscious togetherness (TM).”
In “conscious togetherness (TM),” there is deep, mutual support for cultivating the unique gifts that each partner brings to the other and the world. Needs for both closeness and space apart are honored, and the communication channels are open to express each person’s needs and desires. Greater individual fulfillment enables each to contribute more richly to the relationship, and growing feelings of aliveness spark the relationship itself, infusing it with greater passion and energy.
Here are some suggestions to help you move toward “conscious togetherness (TM):”
1) Pursue your own interests.
Take a class or work on a project because it interests YOU. When you are fed creatively, intellectually or emotionally, you’ll contribute more aliveness to the relationship.
2) Cultivate friendships outside of your relationship.
Your partner cannot meet all of your relational needs. Besides, it’s fun and enlivening to experience different facets of yourself through contact with others.
3) Take time alone.
In order to connect with yourself and your spiritual source, you might spend time in nature, enjoy a hot bath, journal, garden, meditate. Whatever can bring you a sense of rejuvenation can nourish your relationship exponentially.
4) Create special time with you partner.
Relationships flourish with open, loving communication. Make time to share with your partner, to nourish the bond of intimacy. That loving bond will support you both in powerfully contributing to the world outside your relationship, as well as within it.
Drs. Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks in Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment, refer to a “strong relationship” as a “co-creative relationship.” It is one in which two people access more of their creativity as a result of their loving interaction.” “Out of the harmony of a co-committed relationship springs an enhanced energy that enables both partners to make a greater contribution than either one could have made alone.”
Regardless of the term used for a “strong relationship,” the key is to come from a place of abundance which is achieved by using the loving power of your heart.
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