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3 Quick Tips For Finding the Perfect Relationship

One glorious spring afternoon, much like today, my mentor and I were sitting down to a cup of tea.  I was telling him that I have realized that my mission in life is to support and empower women to find their ideal partner. I explained that it had been a long and introspective journey for me.  When I was clear about what I wanted in a mate and loved myself more, I was finally ready to connect with another. I have now realized the bliss of heartfelt connection and love with another, and … with myself.

He understood just what I meant and offered me the following to share with my clients.  He further explained that it rarely fails for the people who have tried these tips:

TIP #1.     List 20 characteristics of your perfect mate.  (These can be personality traits, physical qualities, etc. – whatever is important to you.  You can list more that 20 if you wish.  I recommend that you do not be bashful.  Go for the gold and describe your perfect mate – No Limitations!

TIP#2.     Describe the person you want to be when you meet this person and then go about becoming this person.

TIP #3.     List all the things you want to do before you get yourself into a committed relationship and start doing them. (If you want to take a cruise with your single friends – do it, if you want to do a 2 week “Vision Quest” – do it.  If you want to hitchhike across Europe – do it, etc.)

I invite you to give this a try and please  remember, “There is Power in the Particular.”

Published on Saturday April 3, 2010 in Energy and Relationship, First Date Preparation and Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments

“Imagine a Woman” Turns 15

Today, I have the privilege of wishing happy 15th birthday to the “Imagine a Woman” poem. The poem inspired my own “rebirth.” From the moment I heard it read, it’s message resonated within my heart. To this day, I cannot read it without a tear in my eye.

Growing up, I experienced the loss of my own “voice” and belief in myself. I grew to believe that if I put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own, I would loved and not abandoned. It was not until I heard the words: “Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself. A woman who listens to her needs and desires. Who meets them with tenderness and grace”— that I truly understood that it was OK to be me. How freeing!

I am not alone on the journey to reclaim the truth about myself. My most heartfelt desire and calling is to share this message with my sisters everywhere, so that you, too, may know the depth of joy that I now experience because of this life-changing poem. I invite you to check out the Imagine a Woman Worldwide Community at its website: www.imagineAwoman.com and give your heart the opportunity to smile.   

I wish you love and wholeness, Mara Castello

Published on Friday April 2, 2010 in Events and Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments Tags: , , .

The “One Thing” You Can Do Right Now to Live From Your Heart

In his book, “Breaking the Rules,” Kurt Wright suggests that we ask the question, “What is right?” rather than “What is wrong?” This concept has given birth to a tool that you can use right now to live from your heart.  I call it the “One Thing.”

It’s name came about through the work of two very wise and profound gentlemen who are all of 7 yrs old.

In the past, when their mother would ask, “How was your day, guys?” the answer would be either no answer at all, or a one word answer like, “Fine.”

Now by using this tool, their mother says, “Tell me the one thing that made you happy today?”

They are now so excited that they both can’t wait to answer her.  Their enthusiasm often results in talking over each other to the point where she has to literally slow them down to understand what they’re saying.

You can see from this example that approaching life from a place of the one thing that makes you happy gives you the freedom to express yourself from the heart.  

Published on Wednesday July 1, 2009 in Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments Tags: , , .

3 Steps to Bring Love Into Your Life

Love will enter your life only to the extent that you are prepared to receive it. Bringing love into your life begins with you. Real love, love that is deep and true and will last a lifetime, will come to you when you have identified and worked through the inner limitations that have hindered you from experiencing true love until now.

Step 1:  Reflect on Your Life

You may think that looking for love means joining internet dating sites, going to single’s venues or joining dating services. While these methods increase opportunity, they don’t increase the likelihood of lasting connection with another person.

I invite you to let love into your life knowing that all of your childhood experiences and all your past relationships, whether wonderful or difficult, have been preparing you for today. All of these past experiences helped to make you the person you are today.

Nothing you have done so far is a mistake or a waste of time. Rather, it has been critical to your personal growth and necessary in preparation to lead you to the love of your life.

Step 2:  Identify Your Inner Limitations

We all have voices in our heads playing old messages. They serve as inner limitations and keep us small in some way. Most old messages develop in response to a childhood issue we faced in fear.

To keep you safe, you developed a protection strategy which eventually became a “story” you repeatedly told yourself. It worked for a long time when you were a child. Now, it is so embedded in your being, you still hold tight to that childhood message or “story,” even though you are now an adult. It is a default. This old message no longer serves you; now, it has the potential to cause you harm.

So, what can you do?

Step 3:  Understand What Your Inner “Voices” Really Want

All inner voices have “positive intent” no matter how negative their messages may seem.  Through the process of “positive intent,” you can discover what your inner voice really wants. How? By asking it, “What do you want?” Eventually, your self-limiting voice will respond with a “core” want such as oneness, peace or love.

Once you can determine the underlying positive “want” of that inner voice,  you can then embrace it as a critical part of who you are. The next time you hear it, you can notice it, appreciate it’s helpful intent, and transform it into a more suitable message for who you are today.

Take the time to listen to your voices. They contain important information about what you really want and lend clues to areas that cause you fear. By paying attention and transforming “stories” that no longer serve you, you will be more open to finding true and lasting love.

Published on Saturday June 27, 2009 in Start with Self-Love. 0 Comments Tags: , , , .