Relationship | Navigate from the Heart

Compassion is a fundamental building block within a relationship in that it provides a “sympathetic consciousness of the others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.” Applying compassion in relationships is important in order to develop deeper connection.

To better understand the elements of compassion, it is necessary to keep in mind, a model used in coaching called the “Process of Manifestation” which teaches that thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, and actions lead to results (T+F+A= R). How does compassion manifest?

It requires that we examine our core thought (T) to align it with that of our partner’s. This then produces a feeling (F) showing that we understand how the other person feels (empathy). We then ultimately act (A) on that understanding demonstrating compassion (either verbally or physically.) When two persons in an intimate relationship feel compassion for one another, judgment lessens, defense lessens and it deepens the level of connection (R) between the partners.

In my own experience with my life partner, by knowing this process, whenever I have experienced anger, I have been able to go back to my core thought (although not necessarily at that moment) and replace it with a thought that ultimaely leads me to compassion.

Relationship success carries a unique and special meaning for each person. It’s meaning is defined by who you are on the inside, defined as your “level of consciousness” which is inherently made up of energy. This “self-created lens,” or “level of consciousness,” through which you view your life determines the way you see the world, your reaction to it and the quality of character of others you draw to yourself.

When your “level of consciousness” is aligned with who you truly are at your “core,” you are able to live effortlessly in accordance with your most important values. This creates an opportunity for you to gain deeper connection with all aspects of your life. Specifically, with yourself and more clarity on what qualities you are looking for in a loveing partner.