The next time you “set sail” on the sea of dating possibilities, practice Heart Dating Principle #1, “Listen to Your Heart” and stay present in the moment. It is only when you are in the “now,” can you fully appreciate the “breeze on your face.” The more time we can spend living from our heart, the more we can connect with that higher universal consciousness that connects us all.
When we are present in the moment, the stories in our heads are no longer there. Why? Because there is no past, there is no future, there is just now. There is only knowledge or information void of emotional charge or judgment. How freeing!
The pivotal point in my life, when I finally understood “being in the moment” as the “key” to relationship success, occurred while sailing. This realization provided the foundation for my Heart DatingTM Navigation System: Chart Your Unique Course to True & Lasting Love.
Several years ago when I was in my early 40’s, I took sailing lessons for the first time. At first I thought, “I’m too old, I’m too this, I’m too that.” Doubts about my capabilities filled my head and my confidence was shaken. But I did it anyway. I stepped through the fear.
There was one time in particular, out on the water alone, that I call my “perfect moment.” I was on Boston Harbor in a tiller-operated sailboat. It was with only one finger—my index finger—that I was navigating that sailboat.
The sails of the boat were perfectly trimmed, maximizing the wind. The sun was setting and the weather was beautiful. It was a postcard moment. I realized, with just one finger and the lightest touch, I was perfectly aligned with the universe. There was no past … there was no future … there was just the present moment.
I felt so empowered, so aligned, so abundant. There were no stories going on in my head. No one was around to influence my thoughts. At that present moment, I was completely myself, living from my heart, and experiencing life to the max. I thought, “Wow. Why can’t I do this all the time?”
That’s the way the sailing metaphor came about. The perfect moment for me was when I was sailing in the present moment, experiencing “the breeze on my face.” It was effortless. I was listening to my heart and expressing my truest self. For the first time, I felt the freedom to be me. I was truly empowered. I knew I could now take action from an abundant place toward what I most wanted… a deeply connected relationship with a loving partner.
When you are in the present moment, there is only love. Love for yourself, love for the universe, and love for a potential partner.









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