Values | Navigate from the Heart

Compassion is a fundamental building block within a relationship in that it provides a “sympathetic consciousness of the others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.” Applying compassion in relationships is important in order to develop deeper connection.

To better understand the elements of compassion, it is necessary to keep in mind, a model used in coaching called the “Process of Manifestation” which teaches that thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, and actions lead to results (T+F+A= R). How does compassion manifest?

It requires that we examine our core thought (T) to align it with that of our partner’s. This then produces a feeling (F) showing that we understand how the other person feels (empathy). We then ultimately act (A) on that understanding demonstrating compassion (either verbally or physically.) When two persons in an intimate relationship feel compassion for one another, judgment lessens, defense lessens and it deepens the level of connection (R) between the partners.

In my own experience with my life partner, by knowing this process, whenever I have experienced anger, I have been able to go back to my core thought (although not necessarily at that moment) and replace it with a thought that ultimaely leads me to compassion.

Honoring who you truly are in all aspects of your life enables you to fully express yourself. When you are able to live in alignment with your core values; your level of consciousness, or level of energy remains high. When your energy is high, you are more likely to attract a person aligned with your “core” values and ultimately the relationship you desire.

This way of “being” is achieved through a unique process known as “Energy Leadership.” Leadership is how you interact with everyone, including yourself. We tend to think of leaders in relation to small and large business. However, we all interact with people on a regular basis and, therefore, we are all leaders. Leading energy is the way we help move people into action, including ourselves.

The Energy Leadership process enables you to be the leader in your relationship journey by gaining the awareness and skills to raise your overall level of consciousness, or level of energy. It is based on the premise that sustainable change occurs from the “core.”

Through this process, you will deepen your relationship with yourself, bringing you greater awareness of your true values and ultimately raise your overall energy level, or E-Factor. Once you have gained this awareness, it becomes relatively effortless to embark on your relationship journey and ultimately find your ideal loving partner in a way that brings you passion and joy.